Dance like there's no-one watching.

14/02/2010

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Most pivotal moments in life happen when you least expect them. On a random Saturday morning in Spring of 1988 for example. All it takes is one event, one incident or one little situation and suddenly the dimensions of ones life can alter dramatically, never to be the same again . . .

Okay, so the specific incident I’m referring to here wasn’t exactly a life-changing experience for me, (to be honest I’m not sure I can even call it pivotal really, I just wanted to use the word,) but it was certainly responsible for altering a few things in my life, laying down the foundations for at least two of my biggest passions, (clippie-cloppy shoes and dancing) and at least one of my biggest aversions, (mice and all scurrying creatures in general.)

It all began in the old church hall, nestled in poison ivy at the bottom of a lane dotted with pot holes. There we stood, gazing at the frightening figure before us. Her hair scraped back in a no-nonsense bun, her fingers, slender and long and gesturing for us to move closer. Her figure, according to all the Mummies, was extremely desirable, though it occurred to me that she sort of resembled an ironing board. She wasn’t pretty per se, more striking, intimidating even. None of us dared to disobey.

Obligingly we shuffled forwards, like a herd of mini pink elephants, we huddled together and listened carefully as Miss Marcell tilted her ironing board closer towards us and began to whisper.

‘Underneath us, under the wooden floorboards,’ she somehow whispered at volume,  ‘there lives a family of little mice. And in this Ballet Class we shall not disturb the mice, shall we?’ We shook our little heads in response. ‘So we must walk on our tip-toes at all times and be as graceful as we can. Okay?’ This time we nodded. And those words were carefully etched into our minds forever.

Now despite being a Tuesdays child I am about as graceful as a fairy elephant. Grace is not an attribute I naturally possess and I’m clumsy too. Present me with the simple task of walking through a 3ft wide-door and I shall inevitably smack myself into the door frame in my attempt. Tis a curse, that I shall never be without I imagine.

Oh but I tried. I tip-toed, I whispered, I conjured every ounce of elegancy I could possibly find as I mastered the steps, the plie, the pirouette.  And such was my concentration that I rarely managed to dance without my tongue hanging out to help me, even as I clung to the barre for support. I was a hopeless case. Destined never to be a ballerina, which is such a shame cos I do have what has been referred to as a ’dancers neck’ (in that it is the only part of me that remains permanently (and pointlessly) slender, at all times.)

Eventually though and I cannot pin-point when exactly, something in side of me began to click in to place. It wasn’t the required balance and grace I needed in order to be selected to dance at the front with the best ballerinas though instead it was the powerful urge to rebel against Miss 2-backs and those flippin’ finicky mice.

Here I was going out of my way to be extra-specially quiet, delicate and graceful and those flippin’ mice were nothing more than squeaky squatters! Shacked up underneath the floorboards of our hall, insisting upon silence. Our Mummies paid good money to send us to Ballet lessons with Miss 2 backs, or so I’d heard. And I couldn’t be sure, but I sensed that the mice family probably didn’t pay as much for their accommodation?!  Who the squeak did they think they were?!

And ever since then I have had a very strained relationship with mice And all scurrying creatures, come to think of it.

Ah but my love for dance has never faltered.

Over the years I’ve tried every style of dance going. Jazz, Tap, Jive, Street, Bhangra, Drunken, Lap (only joking!!) . . . You name it and if it involves music, rhythm and some fabulous shoes to wear I’ll definitely give it a whirl.

My favourite kinda dance though is anything that can be performed in heels, because in my heels that clumsiness usually disappears and miraculously I find I have a teeny, tiny bit of grace after all.

And it was this rule that convinced me that I’d be a pro at pole-dancing.

After all I’d slid down the fireman's poles many times before in the park, (none of this is supposed to sound full of sexual innuendo by the way, so any smut in your mind hereafter is entirely your own.) and I thought I’d always demonstrated polished grandeur whilst spinning after one-two-many Vodka’s around the poles in nightclubs.

AND I once got a round of applause from almost every single passenger on the Bakerloo line for my pole-dancing abilities on the tube.

So how hard could it be?!

VERY.

At least it was for me. Even in 6 inch heels and my favourite Chanel lippy. I stood in a studio full of svelte young ladies, snaking their bodies around the poles effortlessly. And I did as instructed. I twisted my leg around my pole like all the other girls and I even managed to pull myself up with just my arms. But instead of spinning in a neat circle and landing on my shoes as I should have done I somehow tied my ankle to my pole and landed with a thud firmly on my arse.

And then I tried again. And again. And again. Until the colour of my face matched my bright red lippy precisely.  And eventually the lovely instructor decided it might be wise to place a crash-mat underneath my pole. For insurance purposes.

I left the class feeling as though I had been involved in a horrific accident. How those girls do that and make it look sexy is beyond me. And I really must visit Peter Stringfellows some time soon to show my appreciation.

Out of all the dance genre’s I’ve tried and tested my favourite, and the one in which I am by far the most accomplished has to be the mystical art of Raqs sharqi or more common, ‘Belly Dance.’

Why they call it belly dance I’m not sure, since it’s actually all about the hips and not at all about the belly. And since the hips are my favourite body part on a woman, and belly dance is all about celebrating being a woman, it suits me to a tee. I can’t get enough and have been shimmying all over the place, in the kitchen, in the shower, in my sleep, (there you go again, being smutty!) - and it’s stirred up the inner hippy, (I didn’t eat her either by the way, I just happen to have lots of creatures inside.) I feel very airy-fairy at the moment, full of inner peace and tranquillity. I’m even thinking of getting a toe-ring. (which in my book is the ultimate in hippy-chic.) I might even go blonde too . . .

And guess what? I don’t belly-dance in my heels at all. I dance barefoot (so that I can ‘draw energy directly from the ground’ and ’be at one with the Earth’ and sufficiently open all of my chakra’s—according to Dolphina (my telly belly dance instructor.) - and I don’t mind at all.

I don’t say this very often but I guess there are some things in life you can conquer without shoes :-)

Steph x

 

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